具体描述
In this poignant, hilarious, and deeply intimate call to arms, Hollywood’s most powerful woman, the mega-talented creator of Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal and executive producer of How to Get Away with Murder reveals how saying YES changed her life—and how it can change yours too.
She’s the creator and producer of some of the most groundbreaking and audacious shows on television today: Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal, How to Get Away with Murder. Her iconic characters—Meredith Grey, Cristina Yang, Olivia Pope, Annalise Keating—live boldly and speak their minds. So who would suspect that Shonda Rhimes, the mega talent who owns Thursday night television (#TGIT), is an introvert? That she hired a publicist so she could avoid public appearances? That she hugged walls at splashy parties and suffered panic attacks before media interviews so severe she remembered nothing afterward?
Before her Year of Yes, Shonda Rhimes was an expert at declining invitations others would leap to accept. With three children at home and three hit television shows on TV, it was easy to say that she was simply too busy. But in truth, she was also afraid. Afraid of cocktail party faux pas like chucking a chicken bone across a room; petrified of live television appearances where Shonda Rhimes could trip and fall and bleed out right there in front of a live studio audience; terrified of the difficult conversations that came so easily to her characters on-screen. In the before, Shonda’s introvert life revolved around burying herself in work, snuggling her children, and comforting herself with food.
And then, on Thanksgiving 2013, Shonda’s sister muttered something that was both a wake up and a call to arms: You never say yes to anything.
The comment sat like a grenade, until it detonated. Then Shonda, the youngest of six children from a supremely competitive family, knew she had to embrace the challenge: for one year, she would say YES to everything that scared her.
This poignant, intimate, and hilarious memoir explores Shonda’s life before her Year of Yes—from her nerdy, book-loving childhood creating imaginary friends to her devotion to creating television characters who reflected the world she saw around her (like Cristina Yang, whose ultimate goal wasn’t marriage, and Cyrus Beene, who is a Republican and gay). And it chronicles her life after her Year of Yes had begun—when Shonda forced herself out of the house and onto the stage, appearing on Jimmy Kimmel Live, and giving the Dartmouth Commencement speech; when she learned to say yes to her health, yes to play and she stepped out of the shadows and into the sun; when she learned to explore, empower, applaud, and love her truest self. Yes.
This wildly candid and compulsively readable book reveals how the mega talented Shonda Rhimes, an unexpected introvert, achieved badassery worthy of a Shondaland character. And how you can, too.
作者简介
Shonda Rhimes is the prolific writer, executive producer and creator of the hit ABC series "Grey's Anatomy," and "Scandal." In addition to creating the "Grey's Anatomy" spinoff series "Private Practice," which ran on ABC for six seasons, Rhimes is the executive producer of the ABC series "How to Get Away with Murder," which premiered in 2014 as the number one new show of the Fall in adults 18-49.
Entering its twelfth season, "Grey's Anatomy" continues to be hailed by audiences and critics. For her work on the series, Rhimes received the 2007 Television Producer of the Year by the Producers Guild of America, the 2007 Golden Globe for Outstanding Television Drama, the 2007 Lucy Award for Excellence in Television from Women in Film, the 2006 Writers Guild Award for Best New Series, in addition to Emmy nominations for Outstanding Drama Series and Writing for a Drama Series. For "Scandal," Rhimes was the 2013 winner of the prestigious Peabody Award. Rhimes was the recipient of the 2012 GLAAD Golden Gate Award, 2010 RAINN Hope Award and a 2009 GLSEN Respect Awards Honoree. Additionally for "Private Practice," Rhimes received the Television Academy Honors award in 2010 and 2011 as well as the Prism Award for Outstanding Writing for a Drama Series in 2011. As an executive producer on "How To Get Away With Murder," Rhimes was honored with the 2015 AFI Award for TV Program of the Year as well as the 2015 GLAAD Media Awards for Outstanding Drama Series. Across her shows, Rhimes was the 2005, 2013, 2014 winner of the AFI Award for Television Program of the Year. In addition, Rhimes has won an unprecedented 6 NAACP Image Awards for Writing for Outstanding Writing in a Dramatic Series plus 8 NAACP Image Awards for Outstanding Drama Series.
Rhimes has twice been included in TIME Magazine's 100 list of the most influential people along with Fortune Magazine's "50 Most Powerful Women in Business," Variety's "Power of Women" and Glamour Magazine's "Women of the Year." In 2013, Rhimes was appointed by President Obama to serve as Trustee for the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts. In 2014, Rhimes, along with producing partner Betsy Beers, received the Directors Guild of America's prestigious Diversity Award. This marked only the fifth time the organization had bestowed this award. Rhimes was additionally a 2014 recipient of the W. E. B. Du Bois Medal from Harvard, the Sherry Lansing Leadership Award from The Hollywood Reporter and was named to both the 2014 New Establishment list for Vanity Fair and the New Guard List for the most connected women in America for Marie Claire. In 2015, Rhimes was awarded the Paddy Chayefsky Laurel Award for Television Writing Achievement from the Writers Guild of America, West, as well as inducted into the National Association of Broadcasters Broadcasting Hall of Fame. She was additionally honored with the Ally for Equality Award from the Human Rights Council and was also bestowed the Eleanor Roosevelt Global Women's Rights Award from the Feminist Majority Foundation in recognition of her work in changing the face of media.
Aside from her success with network television, Rhimes wrote the feature film "Princess Diaries 2: A Royal Engagement," released in August 2004 by Disney. Additionally, her original script, "Crossroads," was released in 2002 by Paramount. She also co-wrote "Introducing Dorothy Dandridge," produced by HBO and nominated for numerous awards, and for which Halle Berry won a Golden Globe and an Emmy for Best Actress in a miniseries for her portrayal of Dandridge. In 2004, Rhimes created her production company Shondaland.
In November of 2015, Rhimes will release her first book, "Year of Yes" from Simon & Schuster. The book candidly chronicles her moving and humorous attempts to come out of her shell by saying "yes" to everything that scares her.
Shonda Rhimes is the writer, executive producer and creator of ABC's "Grey's Anatomy," "Private Practice," and "Scandal." She's also the executive producer of "How to Get Away with Murder."
For her work, Rhimes has received numerous honors including the prestigious Peabody Award. In 2013, she was appointed by President Obama to serve as Trustee for the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts.
A graduate of Dartmouth College, Rhimes received her MFA from USC's School of Cinema-Television. The youngest of six, she was raised outside of Chicago, IL, and now resides in Los Angeles with her three daughters.
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我一直以为，生活中的“否”是一种自我保护，是一种规避风险的策略。然而，《Year of Yes》这本书，却让我开始质疑这个根深蒂固的观念。作者的经历，如同一股清流，涤荡了我内心长期以来积累的种种犹豫和不安。她用一年的时间，将“是”这个简单的字，变成了一种强大的生活哲学。我发现，我所害怕的很多事物，在作者的笔下，都变成了一次次成长的契机。她并没有回避自己的脆弱和恐惧，而是将这些真实的情感融入到她的故事中，使得整个过程充满了人性的光辉。我特别喜欢她关于“如何在一个不确定的世界里寻找确定性”的思考，这让我意识到，所谓的确定性，很多时候并非来自于外部环境，而是来自于内心的坚定和不断的尝试。这本书为我打开了一个全新的视角，让我看到，原来生活中存在着如此多的可能性，而我却因为长期的“否”而错过了它们。它鼓励我去拥抱未知，去挑战自我，去用一种更加积极和开放的态度去回应生活。它不只是一本书，更像是一次心灵的洗礼，让我重新找回了对生活的热情和勇气。
在生活的某个阶段，我感到自己陷入了一种停滞不前的状态。每天的日子都按部就班，却少了一些激情和活力，仿佛生命被一种无形的力量束缚住了。正是在这样的时刻，《Year of Yes》这本书闯入了我的视野。它不仅仅是一本励志读物，更像是一次与灵魂的深度对话。作者以一种极其真诚和 relatable 的方式，分享了她如何在一年的时间内，对生命中的各种机会和挑战说“是”的故事。让我印象深刻的是，她并没有将这个过程描绘得一帆风顺，而是真实地展现了她内心的挣扎、自我怀疑，以及克服这些负面情绪的努力。这种真实感，让我觉得她就像我的一个知心朋友，在分享她最深刻的人生感悟。我开始思考，在我的生活中，有多少次我因为害怕而拒绝了机会，有多少次我因为习惯而错过了惊喜。书中关于如何识别并打破自我设限的模式，如何重新定义“失败”的意义，以及如何在不确定性中找到力量的建议，都让我受益匪浅。这本书鼓励我去拥抱未知，去尝试那些让我感到不安但又充满诱惑的事物，去发现那个更加勇敢和充满活力的自己。
这本书的出现，恰似一道久旱甘霖，在我最需要的时候悄然降临。我一直以来都习惯于被动地接受生活抛来的种种，对于“是”这个字，我似乎在内心深处筑起了一道无形的墙，阻碍着我对未知世界和新体验的探索。然而，《Year of Yes》如同一个循循善诱的智者，用一种令人信服又充满温情的方式，揭示了我内心深处对改变的渴望，以及这种渴望被压抑后的失落。作者的坦诚和勇气，让我得以窥见自己身上同样的潜力和困境。读这本书的过程，与其说是在阅读一个故事，不如说是在进行一场深刻的自我对话。我开始反思自己过去无数个“不”，每一个“不”背后隐藏的恐惧、不安，以及因此错失的机会。书中关于克服社交焦虑、拥抱不确定性、以及如何在生活中找到更多可能性的一些具体例子，对我来说简直是醍醐灌顶。我尤其喜欢作者在讲述个人转变过程时，那种既有挣扎又有坚持的真实感，这让我觉得我并非孤身一人在与内心的声音搏斗。这本书不仅仅是给我打了一针鸡血，更重要的是，它给了我一套行之有效的方法论，让我开始尝试用一种更开放、更积极的态度去回应生活。它让我意识到，很多时候，我们之所以无法前进，并不是因为能力不足，而是因为我们还没有学会说“是”，还没有给自己一个去尝试、去跌倒、去学习的机会。
《Year of Yes》这本书，给我带来的不仅仅是一次阅读体验，更是一次深刻的自我觉醒。我一直以来都扮演着一个被动的接受者，很少主动去追求或创造，对生活中的各种邀请和机会，总是习惯性地习惯性地在内心划一道“否”。这种模式，让我错失了很多本可以让自己更加丰富多彩的经历。作者的经历，就像一面镜子，照出了我内心的种种犹豫和不安。她用自己一年的时间，将“是”变成了一种生活态度，一种主动出击的姿态。让我感动的是，她并不是一个天生就勇往直前的人，相反，她也曾被恐惧和焦虑所困扰，但她选择了直面这些情绪，并用行动来打破它们的束缚。书中关于如何调整心态，如何一步步走出舒适区，以及如何从每一次的尝试中汲取力量的描述，都让我觉得非常受用。我尤其欣赏她对于“害怕”的理解，她并没有教导我们如何完全消除恐惧，而是让我们学会如何带着恐惧前行。这本书，让我开始重新审视那些我曾经轻易放弃的机会，也让我对未来充满了更多的期待。它不仅仅是一本关于“说‘是’”的书，更是一本关于如何拥抱生活、如何活出真我的指南。
在读《Year of Yes》之前，我对“改变”这件事一直持有一种模糊且畏惧的态度。我习惯了安逸，习惯了熟悉，任何可能打破现状的尝试，都会在我内心深处激起一层层不安的涟漪。这本书的出现，恰似一位睿智的朋友，用一种平和却又极具穿透力的方式，揭示了我内心的矛盾。作者分享的，并非是一蹴而就的奇迹，而是一个充满真实挣扎与坚定信念的成长过程。她如何从一个习惯拒绝的人，变成一个拥抱“是”的人，其中的每一次转变，都伴随着内心的博弈。我尤其被她在面对挑战时展现出的韧性所打动。她没有刻意神化自己，而是坦诚地展现了她的犹豫、她的恐惧，以及她如何在一次次的自我对话中，最终选择迈出那关键的一步。这本书让我开始重新审视那些我曾轻易说出的“不”，思考它们背后隐藏的真正原因。它也让我意识到，“说‘是’”并非意味着盲目答应，而是一种有意识的选择，一种对新体验的开放，一种对自我成长的投资。它为我提供了一个思考框架，让我得以更清晰地看到，如何才能让我的生活变得更加丰富和充满活力。
我必须承认，《Year of Yes》这本书，在很大程度上颠覆了我对于“生活”的固有认知。我一直以来，都将“拒绝”视为一种保护机制，一种避免麻烦和不确定性的方式。然而，作者的经历，却让我看到了“拥抱”所能带来的巨大能量。她用一整年的时间，将“是”这个看似简单的字，变成了一种强大的生活哲学，一种主动探索未知，积极回应挑战的生活态度。我特别喜欢她讲述自己如何一步步挑战内心恐惧，如何打破自我设限的模式，以及如何在每一次的尝试中，重新定义自己的过程。她并没有刻意美化自己的经历，而是将她内心的挣扎、困惑，以及最终的突破，都坦诚地展现在读者面前。这种真实感，让我觉得她就像我身边的一位朋友，在分享她最宝贵的人生经验。这本书，让我开始审视自己那些习惯性的“不”，并思考它们背后隐藏的真正原因。它也让我意识到，“说‘是’”不仅仅是答应更多的邀约，更是一种心态的转变，一种愿意去学习、去成长、去体验更广阔世界的决心。它为我打开了一扇新的窗户，让我看到了一个更加充满活力和可能性的自我。
拿起《Year of Yes》这本书，我带着一种复杂的心情——既有对作者经历的好奇，也夹杂着对自身生活模式的些许无奈。我长期以来，似乎都在一种固定的模式中运行，对于新的尝试，总是习惯性地划上“否”。这种状态，让我觉得生活虽然安稳，却也缺少了些许色彩。作者的坦诚和勇气，让我看到了另一种可能性。她将“说‘是’”变成了一种一年的生活实验，这个过程本身就极具挑战性。更让我印象深刻的是，她并没有将自己塑造成为一个完美无缺的英雄，而是真实地展现了她在这个过程中所经历的挣扎、自我怀疑，以及最终如何克服它们。我尤其欣赏她关于如何与内心恐惧共处，以及如何将每一次的“不确定”转化为学习机会的观点。这些都给了我极大的启发，让我开始重新思考，我生活中那些“不”的背后，究竟隐藏着什么。这本书，不仅仅是关于勇敢说“是”，更重要的是，它教会我如何去拥抱变化，如何去面对未知，以及如何在一次次的尝试中，发现更强大的自己。它为我打开了一扇通往更广阔世界的门。
在阅读《Year of Yes》的过程中，我时常会停下来，陷入深深的沉思。我的生活，长期以来都被一种无形的“拒绝”所笼罩，我习惯了在熟悉的环境中寻求安逸，对任何可能带来改变的“邀约”，总是习惯性地在内心划上“否”。作者的经历，就像一把钥匙，轻轻地开启了我内心深处对于改变的渴望，也让我看到了，原来“说‘是’”并非一件遥不可及的事情。她将这一年的经历，描绘得既充满挑战，又极其鼓舞人心。我尤其欣赏她对于“恐惧”的理解，她并没有试图将其彻底根除，而是教导我如何带着恐惧前行，如何将其转化为前进的动力。书中关于如何识别并打破自我设限的模式，如何从失败中学习，以及如何在不确定性中寻找确定性的智慧，都让我受益匪浅。我开始重新审视那些我曾经轻易放弃的机会，并思考，如果我当时能勇敢地说一声“是”，我的生活又会是怎样一番景象。这本书，不仅仅是一次阅读，更像是一次心灵的唤醒，它鼓励我去探索更广阔的世界，去拥抱更多的可能性，去发现那个更加勇敢和充满活力的自己。
初读《Year of Yes》，我并没有预设太高的期望，只是带着一丝好奇心翻开了它。然而，随着阅读的深入，我却被作者的经历和感悟深深吸引。这本书并非只是讲述了一个简单的“一年内对所有事情说‘是’”的故事，它更像是一场关于自我发现和个人成长的深刻剖析。作者的坦率和幽默感贯穿始终，让我在轻松的阅读氛围中，不断地进行着自我反思。我开始审视自己生活中那些“不”的根源，它们或许源于对失败的恐惧，或许源于对未知的逃避，又或许源于对他人评价的过度在意。书中关于作者如何一步步挑战自己的舒适区，如何与内心的声音对话，以及如何在一次次的尝试中重塑自我的过程，都给了我巨大的启发。我特别喜欢她对于“恐惧”的解读，她并没有试图消灭恐惧，而是教会我如何与之共存，如何利用恐惧作为前进的动力。这本书让我明白，拥抱“是”不仅仅是答应一些新的活动，更是一种心态的转变，一种愿意去尝试、去学习、去犯错，并在过程中不断成长的决心。它为我打开了一扇新的窗口，让我看到了一个更加广阔和充满可能性的世界。
我必须承认，最初拿起这本书，是被它极具吸引力的书名所打动。《Year of Yes》——这是一个多么大胆而又充满诱惑的承诺！我的生活长期以来就像一潭平静却略显浑浊的水，我畏惧打破这份平静，害怕未知带来的风险，所以总是在舒适区里徘徊，拒绝任何可能带来挑战的新事物。这本书的出现，像一颗投入湖面的石子，激起了层层涟漪，也让我看到了另一种生活的可能。作者的写作风格非常接地气，她没有用高深的理论去说教，而是通过自己真实的生活经历，将“说‘是’”这一看似简单的行动，拆解成了一个充满力量和智慧的实践过程。我尤其欣赏她面对困难和恐惧时的坦诚，她并没有将自己塑造成一个完美无瑕的榜样，而是毫不避讳地展示了她的犹豫、她的挣扎，以及她如何一步步地克服它们。这种真实感，让我觉得她就像我身边的一个朋友，正在分享她最宝贵的成长经验。书中关于如何平衡事业、家庭和个人成长，以及如何在压力之下保持积极心态的章节，都给我留下了深刻的印象。它让我意识到，所谓的“是”，并非盲目的答应，而是一种有意识的选择，一种对未知的好奇，一种对成长的渴望。这本书不仅仅是一本书，更像是一场心灵的旅行，它鼓励我去探索内心深处的声音，去拥抱那些曾经让我却步的可能性。
有声书的开头就是实习医生格蕾里格雷和Christina💃的那首歌，老粉立刻红了眼眶
听得泪流满面
实在受不了这个写作风格啊，放弃了……当年到底是怎么坚持看了六季格蕾和三季丑闻
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实在受不了这个写作风格啊，放弃了……当年到底是怎么坚持看了六季格蕾和三季丑闻
