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发表于2025-01-12
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Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell?
Renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson take a compelling look into how the brain is wired for self-justification. When we make mistakes, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right—a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong.
Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception—how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it.
Carol Tavris is a social psychologist, writer, and lecturer whose goal is to promote psychological science and critical thinking in improving our lives. She is coauthor, with Elliot Aronson, of "Mistakes Were Made (But Not by ME): Why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts," and, with Avrum Bluming, the forthcoming "Estrogen Matters." Her other major books include the landmark "Anger: The misunderstood emotion," a book well known for its critical look at unvalidated notions about the inevitability of anger and the need to "ventilate" it, and how anger can best be expressed constructively. She is also author of the award-winning "The Mismeasure of Woman: Why women are not the better sex, the inferior sex, or the opposite sex," and coauthor of two widely used textbooks, with Carole Wade, for introductory psychology. She has written hundreds of essays and book reviews on topics in psychological science, and is a highly regarded lecturer who has spoken to groups around the world, from New Zealand to Finland. She is a Fellow of the Association for Psychological Science and the Los Angeles Institute for the Humanities.
Elliot Aronson is a social psychologist and Professor Emeritus at the University of California at Santa Cruz and Distinguished Visiting Professor at Stanford University. He has previously taught at Harvard, the University of Texas and the University of Minnesota. As a researcher, he is best known for his groundbreaking research on social influence and persuasion as well as for the invention of the jigsaw classroom (a strategy for reducing prejudice in public schools).
He has written 22 books including The Social Animal, Age of Propaganda (with Anthony Pratkanis), Nobody Left to Hate, The Adventures of Ruthie and a Little Boy Named Grandpa (with his 7-year-oldgranddaughter, Ruth Aronson, and Mistakes Were Made But Not By Me (with Carol Tavris).
Aronson is the only person in the 120-year history of the American Psychological Association to have received all three of its highest awards: For Distinguished Research, Distinguished Teaching, and Distinguished Writing. In 1981, he was named Professor of the Year by the Council for the Advancement and Support of Education.
Among his other awards are the Gordon Allport prize for his contributions to inter-racial harmony and the William James Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Psychological Science (2007). Recently, his peers named him as one of the 100 most influential psychologists of the 20th Century.
He was elected to the American Academy of Arts and Sciences and
has served as President of the Society of Personality and Social Psychology as well as President of the Western Psychological Association.
#前半部分挺有启发性的,后半部分有些重复了
评分Confirmation Bias,这个确实太强大了,要如何对抗呢?
评分不是简单的因果关系
评分篇幅可以缩减1/3,为了论证自己的观点,confirmation bias,self-justification,有些例子与论段比较牵强(夫妻关系的部分)。一个有益的观点是,你与你的错误,应该分开来看,你的错误不能完全代表你是谁(我觉得这个也取决于是什么错误吧)
评分不是简单的因果关系
感受最深的有两段话: “误解、冲突、人格差异,甚至吵嘴都不是爱情的杀手,自我辩护才是真正的爱情杀手。如果双方不是只为自己辩护并责备对方,而是首先考虑对方的感受,那么弗兰克和黛伯拉与新来的那对夫妇共进晚餐后,那天晚上可能就是另一番景象。” “相比之下,结婚多...
评分人最困难的事莫过于认错。我指的是自觉的、诚心诚意的认错。用刀架着你脖子的不算,用枪抵着你的脑袋也不算,老婆扬言不要你上床、上司威胁要炒你鱿鱼……这类被迫的情形都不算。 好在所有的难事情都有人研究,替我们支招。当我读到美国心理学家卡罗尔...
评分整本书围绕了self-justification这个问题展开,很有意思。读这本书的时候,自己都时不时的在想,我的大脑真是归我自己管吗? self-justification,应该算是人自身的一种自我保护机制,其中一点就是保护一个人的自己心目中的自我形象。事物是具有两面性的,self-justification...
评分《错不下我》这本书,是我近期读来,最好的一本书之一。里面的内容从解释为什么“骗子、傻子、歹徒会容忍自己的行为,到解释自我辩护的原动力,到一些具体的场景之下,”自我辩护“的各种模样(诸如司法体系、婚姻、创伤、战争等),到最后究竟该如何放弃自我辩护。 自我辩护...
评分美国著名作家斯蒂芬.金有一篇代表作《肖申克的救赎》,讲述的是一个前途无量的年轻银行家安迪被指控枪杀妻子和情夫,在一系列“铁证”面前身陷囹圄,安迪在狱中利用专业知识和顽强意志,最终实现了自我救赎。在安迪的谋杀案中,有一个重要证人——商店职员,他证明安迪买过香烟...
Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) pdf epub mobi txt 电子书 下载 2025