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发表于2024-05-16
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Book Description
John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
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According to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is communication, communication, communication. Phooey, says John Gottman, Ph.D., author of the much-lauded Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. There's much more to a solid, "emotionally intelligent" marriage than sharing every feeling and thought, he points out--though most couples therapists ineffectively (and expensively) harp on these concepts.
Gottman, the director of the Gottman Institute, has found through studying hundreds of couples in his "love lab" that it only takes five minutes for him to predict--with 91 percent accuracy--which couples will eventually divorce. He shares the four not-so-obvious signs of a troubled relationship that he looks for, using sometimes amusing passages from his sessions with married couples. (One standout is Rory, the pediatrician who didn't know the name of the family dog because he spent so much time at work.)
Gottman debunks many myths about divorce (primary among them that affairs are at the root of most splits). He also reveals surprising facts about couples who stay together. They do engage in screaming matches. And they certainly don't resolve every problem. "Take Allan and Betty," he writes. "When Allan gets annoyed at Betty, he turns on ESPN. When Betty is upset with him, she heads for the mall. Then they regroup and go on as if nothing's happened. Never in forty-five years of marriage have they sat down to have a 'dialogue' about their relationship." While this may sound like a couple in trouble, Gottman found that they pass the love-lab tests and say honestly that "they are both very satisfied with their relationship and they love each other deeply."
Through a series of in-depth quizzes, checklists, and exercises, similar to the ones he uses in his workshops, Gottman provides the framework for coping with differences and strengthening your marriage. His profiles of troubled couples rescued from the brink of divorce (including that of Rory, the out-of-touch doctor) and those of still-happy couples who reinvigorate their relationships are equally enlightening.
--Erica Jorgensen
About Author
JOHN M. GOTTMAN, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and cofounder and codirector of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute.
Book Dimension :
length: (cm)20.5 width:(cm)13.3
约翰·戈特曼
享誉世界的“婚姻教皇”
美国华盛顿大学心理学教授,西雅图人际关系研究所所长,从事家庭关系方面研究长达40年,婚姻关系、人际关系研究领域的*专家,被媒体誉为“婚姻教皇”。
人际关系领域最杰出的心理学者
4次荣获美国心理健康研究院科学研究者奖章,并获美国婚姻与家庭治疗协会杰出科学研究者奖章、美国家庭治疗学会杰出贡献奖、美国心理协会家庭心理学分会会长奖章。
listened the audio book. everyday i am trying, to be the right one and better me, relationship is the best experience to know oneself better
评分1 Learning to enhance one's love maps 2 Nurturing fondness & admiration for each other 3 Turning toward each other instead of away from 4 Letting One's Partner Influence u 5 Solve Solvable problems 6 Overcoming gridlock over unsolvable ones 7 Creating shared meaning。 了解爱人如掌纹; 爱爱人如钻戒; .经营婚姻如存款; 重视爱人影响如天气变化; 发生冲突及时刹车; 化解僵局时,各自保留梦想小空间; 创建家庭文化幸福才长远
评分一本科学的工具书,实践性很强,对人际关系也很有帮助。
评分真是棘手啊。。。
评分两人一起看比较有用,不过一般来说,除非婚姻已经触礁严重,很难两人找时间一起认真看完吧。。。。
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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work pdf epub mobi txt 电子书 下载 2024