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• 婚姻
• 心理学
• 亲密关系
• Psychology
• marriage
• 英文原版
• relationship
• 社会学
• 婚姻
• 幸福
• 沟通
• 信任
• 情感
• 关系
• 理解
• 承诺
• 尊重
• 成长

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Book Description

John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

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According to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is communication, communication, communication. Phooey, says John Gottman, Ph.D., author of the much-lauded Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. There's much more to a solid, "emotionally intelligent" marriage than sharing every feeling and thought, he points out--though most couples therapists ineffectively (and expensively) harp on these concepts.

Gottman, the director of the Gottman Institute, has found through studying hundreds of couples in his "love lab" that it only takes five minutes for him to predict--with 91 percent accuracy--which couples will eventually divorce. He shares the four not-so-obvious signs of a troubled relationship that he looks for, using sometimes amusing passages from his sessions with married couples. (One standout is Rory, the pediatrician who didn't know the name of the family dog because he spent so much time at work.)

Gottman debunks many myths about divorce (primary among them that affairs are at the root of most splits). He also reveals surprising facts about couples who stay together. They do engage in screaming matches. And they certainly don't resolve every problem. "Take Allan and Betty," he writes. "When Allan gets annoyed at Betty, he turns on ESPN. When Betty is upset with him, she heads for the mall. Then they regroup and go on as if nothing's happened. Never in forty-five years of marriage have they sat down to have a 'dialogue' about their relationship." While this may sound like a couple in trouble, Gottman found that they pass the love-lab tests and say honestly that "they are both very satisfied with their relationship and they love each other deeply."

Through a series of in-depth quizzes, checklists, and exercises, similar to the ones he uses in his workshops, Gottman provides the framework for coping with differences and strengthening your marriage. His profiles of troubled couples rescued from the brink of divorce (including that of Rory, the out-of-touch doctor) and those of still-happy couples who reinvigorate their relationships are equally enlightening.

　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　--Erica Jorgensen

About Author

JOHN M. GOTTMAN, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and cofounder and codirector of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute.

Book Dimension :

length: (cm)20.5 　　　 　　　　　 　 width:(cm)13.3

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戈特曼最大的噱头是他能相当准确预测离婚。他靠什么预测是否离婚呢？就是观察夫妻双方的互动。如果互动是破坏性的，戈特曼称之为：态度是苛刻的，对对方多是在否定，戈特曼称之为“离婚四骑士”，包括批评、鄙视、自我辩护、冷战，然后是相处之时多半处于消极情绪之中，生理上...  

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1 Learning to enhance one's love maps 2 Nurturing fondness & admiration for each other 3 Turning toward each other instead of away from 4 Letting One's Partner Influence u 5 Solve Solvable problems 6 Overcoming gridlock over unsolvable ones 7 Creating shared meaning。 了解爱人如掌纹； 爱爱人如钻戒； .经营婚姻如存款； 重视爱人影响如天气变化； 发生冲突及时刹车； 化解僵局时，各自保留梦想小空间； 创建家庭文化幸福才长远

A very good book on marriage. Best thing is that I realized we have been following these 7 principles without knowling about them!

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listened the audio book. everyday i am trying, to be the right one and better me, relationship is the best experience to know oneself better

2020 Jan