圖書標籤: 育兒 Parenting 英文原版 教育 心理學 教育理念 Education 傢庭
发表于2024-07-08
UNCONDITIONAL PARENTING Moving from Rewards and Pu pdf epub mobi txt 電子書 下載 2024
Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need - and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that quetion are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.
One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.
More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting - including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.
Alfie Kohn is the author of nine previous books, including Punished by Rewards and The Schools Our Children Deserve, that have helped to shape the thinking of parents and educators across the country and abroad. He lectures widely and lives (actually) with his family in the Boston are and (virtually) at www.alfiekohn.org.
車軲轆話翻來倒去的說,真的很佩服老外。不過這個概念我非常接受
評分One of the best parenting books I've ever read. Answered most of my questions regarding discipline. I have changed my old practices and need to revise my previous writings.
評分車軲轆話翻來倒去的說,真的很佩服老外。不過這個概念我非常接受
評分車軲轆話翻來倒去的說,真的很佩服老外。不過這個概念我非常接受
評分One of the best parenting books I've ever read. Answered most of my questions regarding discipline. I have changed my old practices and need to revise my previous writings.
最近看了两本教育方面的书,《阅读的力量》和《无条件养育》。第一本是讲自由、自愿的阅读的好处,拖泥带水的几百页,读完就记得这个结论了。 《无条件养育》倒是在很大程度上与我之前的想法冲突很大。 论坛里面经常有父母讨论如何教育孩子的,“那天终于忍不住揍了他一顿”...
評分做了2年多爸爸以后,我越来越质疑自己对孩子的教育理念,正是起于感觉到自己频繁使用“胡萝卜+大棒” 。举个例子,每天早上孩子刷牙洗脸是件很折磨的事情,明明3分钟就可以完成的,总要托个半小时。时间来得及时还好,早上如果要上课或者出去,就很容易起冲突。 我之前的解决方...
評分这本书写的观点一下子让人是有些接受不了,但是如果再把自己想像成一个孩子,就是明白确实就是这么回事。父母总是说爱孩子,所做的一切都是为了孩子。但是孩子的真实感受是什么?他需要的是什么? 如果我们爱孩子,为什么孩子感觉到的却是痛苦,难堪,自己的无用,不存在感。难...
評分感觉是白左那一套,鼓吹父母和儿童要平权。 一、不能惩罚 1.1. 体罚不用说了 1.2. 批评是精神惩罚 1.3 连被普遍接受的timeout,即犯错之后双规自省,都被质疑为“爱的剥夺” 二、不能赞赏 2.1 物质奖励,是过早把市场机制引入家庭,谈钱伤感情,扭曲心理。 2.2 口头表扬,潜台...
評分把你的孩子当盘菜 【文】王传言 你希望你的孩子未来是什么样子的?面对这个疑问你可能会想出很多答案。但是,你有没有想过一个问题:你的孩子希望自己未来是什么样子的。你的孩子是按照你的路数去走完自己的路还是要按照自己的路数去经营人生,这一点至关重要也是该书的终极思...
UNCONDITIONAL PARENTING Moving from Rewards and Pu pdf epub mobi txt 電子書 下載 2024