" Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever? Can we want what we already have? Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell erotic disaster? Does good intimacy always make for good sex? " Ether Perel takes on these tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. In her twenty years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on? In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms. While "Mating in Captivity "shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.

【埃丝特•佩瑞尔（Esther Perel)】

婚恋心理咨询师、《纽约时报》畅销书作家，被认为是现代亲密关系领域最具洞察力和独创见解的人。她精通9门语言，在纽约市从事咨询业务，拥有35年的从业经验，并为全球财富500强企业担任组织顾问。她著名的TED演讲点击量超2800万，国际畅销书《亲密陷阱：爱、欲望与平衡艺术》被翻译成近30种语言，成为全球现象级读物。她的新书《危险关系：爱、背叛与修复之路》同样登上了《纽约时报》畅销书榜。埃丝特也是获奖播客“我们从哪里开始”的执行制片人和主持人。她的新播客“工作怎么样？”专注于职场动力，已于2019年秋季上线。