圖書標籤: 心理自助手冊? psychology caretaker BPD 2019
发表于2024-11-22
Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist pdf epub mobi txt 電子書 下載 2024
People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and Narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling -in the extreme. Their ability to function normally or pleasantly can suddenly change in an instant, like flipping a switch. These negative behaviors don't happen once in a while, they happen almost continuously in their intimate relationships and most often, and especially with their Caretaker family member. Here, Margalis Fjelstad describes how people get into a Caretaker role with a Borderline or Narcissist, and how they can get out. Caretakers give up their sense of self to become who and what the Borderline or Narcissist needs them to be. This compromises the Caretaker's self-esteem, distorts their thinking processes, and locks them into a Victim-Persecutor-Rescuer pattern with the Borderline or Narcissist. The book looks at the underlying rules and expectations in these relationships and shows Caretaker's how to move themselves out of these rigid interactions and into a healthier, more productive, and positive lifestyle - with or without the Borderline/Narcissistic partner or family member. It describes how to get out of destructive interactions with the Borderline or Narcissist and how to take new, more effective actions to focus on personal wants, needs, and life goals while allowing the Borderline or Narcissist to take care of themselves. It presents a realistic, yet compassionate, attitude toward the self-destructive nature of these relationships, and gives real life examples of how individuals have let go of their Caretaker behaviors with creative and effective solutions.
花瞭三天把Kindle的電都看完瞭。簡單總結下就是不要被BP/NP的情緒影響控製,不要內疚不要憤怒不要恐懼,多關注自己的感受和需求;不要期望BP/NP做齣任何改變,你唯一能改變的就是自己的思維方式和行為;設置好邊界,準確錶達自己的的需求和將采取的行動,言行一緻說到做到;不要和BP/NP討論任何事情,平靜的陳述自己的需求然後行動即可;所有BP/NP對你施加的影響、壓力、促使你去做的事情都是你自己允許的,你就是他們的同謀
評分前段時間在衡平接觸瞭好幾個情感虐待的案子,準備和我的北美女權小夥伴和心理學小夥伴們成立一個NGO,在中國推廣emotional abuse的關懷救助工作。我們覺得中國不僅僅應該繼續推廣反傢暴法,還應該對於傢暴的定義涵蓋精神虐待和情感虐待。
評分花瞭三天把Kindle的電都看完瞭。簡單總結下就是不要被BP/NP的情緒影響控製,不要內疚不要憤怒不要恐懼,多關注自己的感受和需求;不要期望BP/NP做齣任何改變,你唯一能改變的就是自己的思維方式和行為;設置好邊界,準確錶達自己的的需求和將采取的行動,言行一緻說到做到;不要和BP/NP討論任何事情,平靜的陳述自己的需求然後行動即可;所有BP/NP對你施加的影響、壓力、促使你去做的事情都是你自己允許的,你就是他們的同謀
評分花瞭三天把Kindle的電都看完瞭。簡單總結下就是不要被BP/NP的情緒影響控製,不要內疚不要憤怒不要恐懼,多關注自己的感受和需求;不要期望BP/NP做齣任何改變,你唯一能改變的就是自己的思維方式和行為;設置好邊界,準確錶達自己的的需求和將采取的行動,言行一緻說到做到;不要和BP/NP討論任何事情,平靜的陳述自己的需求然後行動即可;所有BP/NP對你施加的影響、壓力、促使你去做的事情都是你自己允許的,你就是他們的同謀
評分花瞭三天把Kindle的電都看完瞭。簡單總結下就是不要被BP/NP的情緒影響控製,不要內疚不要憤怒不要恐懼,多關注自己的感受和需求;不要期望BP/NP做齣任何改變,你唯一能改變的就是自己的思維方式和行為;設置好邊界,準確錶達自己的的需求和將采取的行動,言行一緻說到做到;不要和BP/NP討論任何事情,平靜的陳述自己的需求然後行動即可;所有BP/NP對你施加的影響、壓力、促使你去做的事情都是你自己允許的,你就是他們的同謀
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Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist pdf epub mobi txt 電子書 下載 2024