图书标签: 心理自助手册? psychology caretaker BPD 2019
发表于2024-11-07
Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist pdf epub mobi txt 电子书 下载 2024
People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and Narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling -in the extreme. Their ability to function normally or pleasantly can suddenly change in an instant, like flipping a switch. These negative behaviors don't happen once in a while, they happen almost continuously in their intimate relationships and most often, and especially with their Caretaker family member. Here, Margalis Fjelstad describes how people get into a Caretaker role with a Borderline or Narcissist, and how they can get out. Caretakers give up their sense of self to become who and what the Borderline or Narcissist needs them to be. This compromises the Caretaker's self-esteem, distorts their thinking processes, and locks them into a Victim-Persecutor-Rescuer pattern with the Borderline or Narcissist. The book looks at the underlying rules and expectations in these relationships and shows Caretaker's how to move themselves out of these rigid interactions and into a healthier, more productive, and positive lifestyle - with or without the Borderline/Narcissistic partner or family member. It describes how to get out of destructive interactions with the Borderline or Narcissist and how to take new, more effective actions to focus on personal wants, needs, and life goals while allowing the Borderline or Narcissist to take care of themselves. It presents a realistic, yet compassionate, attitude toward the self-destructive nature of these relationships, and gives real life examples of how individuals have let go of their Caretaker behaviors with creative and effective solutions.
花了三天把Kindle的电都看完了。简单总结下就是不要被BP/NP的情绪影响控制,不要内疚不要愤怒不要恐惧,多关注自己的感受和需求;不要期望BP/NP做出任何改变,你唯一能改变的就是自己的思维方式和行为;设置好边界,准确表达自己的的需求和将采取的行动,言行一致说到做到;不要和BP/NP讨论任何事情,平静的陈述自己的需求然后行动即可;所有BP/NP对你施加的影响、压力、促使你去做的事情都是你自己允许的,你就是他们的同谋
评分前段时间在衡平接触了好几个情感虐待的案子,准备和我的北美女权小伙伴和心理学小伙伴们成立一个NGO,在中国推广emotional abuse的关怀救助工作。我们觉得中国不仅仅应该继续推广反家暴法,还应该对于家暴的定义涵盖精神虐待和情感虐待。
评分花了三天把Kindle的电都看完了。简单总结下就是不要被BP/NP的情绪影响控制,不要内疚不要愤怒不要恐惧,多关注自己的感受和需求;不要期望BP/NP做出任何改变,你唯一能改变的就是自己的思维方式和行为;设置好边界,准确表达自己的的需求和将采取的行动,言行一致说到做到;不要和BP/NP讨论任何事情,平静的陈述自己的需求然后行动即可;所有BP/NP对你施加的影响、压力、促使你去做的事情都是你自己允许的,你就是他们的同谋
评分花了三天把Kindle的电都看完了。简单总结下就是不要被BP/NP的情绪影响控制,不要内疚不要愤怒不要恐惧,多关注自己的感受和需求;不要期望BP/NP做出任何改变,你唯一能改变的就是自己的思维方式和行为;设置好边界,准确表达自己的的需求和将采取的行动,言行一致说到做到;不要和BP/NP讨论任何事情,平静的陈述自己的需求然后行动即可;所有BP/NP对你施加的影响、压力、促使你去做的事情都是你自己允许的,你就是他们的同谋
评分前段时间在衡平接触了好几个情感虐待的案子,准备和我的北美女权小伙伴和心理学小伙伴们成立一个NGO,在中国推广emotional abuse的关怀救助工作。我们觉得中国不仅仅应该继续推广反家暴法,还应该对于家暴的定义涵盖精神虐待和情感虐待。
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Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist pdf epub mobi txt 电子书 下载 2024