圖書標籤: 心理學 兩性 relationship 英文原版 性心理 心理 love desiration
发表于2024-11-21
Mating in Captivity pdf epub mobi txt 電子書 下載 2024
A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.
'Hello, I'm Esther... I imagine a world where we experience a sense of aliveness and vitality in our relationships, because the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. I've dedicated my life and career to understanding and improving human relationships. Let's continue to learn together.'
Psychotherapist Esther Perel is recognised as one of the most insightful and original voices on modern love. She has changed the conversation on what it means to be in love and have a fulfilling sex life.. For the past ten years, she has worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she argues, but healing is possible. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage - with the same person. With the right approach, couples can learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Weaving real-life stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis, Perel invites readers into a truly revealing exploration of modern marriage. She coaches, consults and speaks regularly on erotic intelligence, trauma, sexual honesty and conflict resolution. She is the bestselling author of Mating in Captivity and her TED Talk has reached 6.5 million views online.
棒棒棒!我的情感解惑bible啊~
評分Key points: 1. Recognize your partner's agency/sovereignty. This is the most important point. You do not own them. 2. Your attachment style to the main care giver (usually the mom) profoundly determines your way of interaction with your significant other. 3. It is okay to have "perverted" sexual fantasies. Just know that they're merely fantasies.
評分一口氣聽完這本書有點吃不消,感覺還是一集一集地聽她的podcast感覺節奏比較舒服一點。感覺還是應該捧著書本好好閱讀,纔能消化。愛和性絕對是兩碼事,男生對此的理解和女生對此的理解南轅北轍。
評分作者不愧是最著名兩性關係專傢,太多精彩案例,是治療親密關係問題的心理醫生,很好奇,如果她跟齊澤剋對侃,誰能贏?這種寫作有些像Oliver Sacks醫生,不過,心理醫生比神經醫生更主觀吧,沒Sacks的書那麼引人入勝。
評分對podcast和audiobook一直接受無能, 繼Esther Perel的Where should we begin解鎖瞭第一個podcast,這本同樣是她讀的書解鎖瞭第一本audiobook的成就(雖然也要1.75倍速)~ 其實對Esther在NICABM中的第一印象並沒有多好,但podcast裏的真實session真的很厲害,跟supervisors討論瞭很多次,為什麼可以這麼一針見血/clients為什麼情感錶達能力都這麼高/這輩子感覺都達不到這個高度瞭怎麼辦嗷嗷嗷(夠。讀完書之後感覺對她session裏的principles更瞭解瞭一些,但定位感覺有點小尷尬。對practitioner來說有點淺,對普通人來說session的部分可能有些無聊,也不那麼“實踐”嚮。
“所以我很好奇,你们的性生活频率高吗?”当A提出这个问题时,我们都笑了。那是一场朋友聚会,或许是因为性取向为同性的原因,A总是会坦然地问出这些私密问题,现场并不尴尬,倒是好玩,并有一种学术探讨的氛围。整个晚上,我们一桌人都在探讨亲密关系、爱与性,气氛热烈。 被...
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評分有个段子是这样的: 假如情侣每做一次爱,就在罐子里放进一颗玻璃球,等到他们结婚后,每做一次就从罐子里取出一颗,你猜什么时候罐子会变空? 答案是:一辈子都不会空。 2009年,性学专家潘绥铭教授曾调查中国人的婚内性生活,结果显示:每月连一次性生活都不到的夫妻为28.7%...
評分这本书的封面很独特,也很温馨,当时拿到这本书的时候我很好奇为何不是一双男鞋,一双女鞋,而是一只男鞋,一只女鞋?并且还是拖鞋?读完这本书之后,现在想想觉得有道理。等到我们慢慢老去,两个人就是一双手、一双脚,相互搀扶,慢慢老去。而拖鞋代表的是在家的日子,也可以...
Mating in Captivity pdf epub mobi txt 電子書 下載 2024