Lasting Change For Early Quitters, Burnouts, The Unmotivated, And Everyone Else Too
When I decided to start exercising consistently 10 years ago, this is what actually happened:
I tried "getting motivated." It worked sometimes.
I tried setting audacious big goals. I almost always failed them.
I tried to make changes last. They didn't.
Like most people who try to change and fail, I assumed that I was the problem.
Then one afternoon--after another failed attempt to get motivated to exercise--I (accidentally) started my first mini habit. I initially committed to do one push-up, and it turned into a full workout. I was shocked. This "stupid idea" wasn't supposed to work. I was shocked again when my success with this strategy continued for months (and to this day). I had to consider that maybe I wasn't the problem in those 10 years of mediocre results. Maybe it was my prior strategies that were ineffective, despite being oft-repeated as "the way to change" in countless books and blogs.
I was right.
Is There A Scientific Explanation For This?
As I sought understanding, I found a plethora of scientific studies that had answers, with nobody to interpret them correctly. Based on the science--which you'll find peppered throughout Mini Habits--we've been doing it all wrong.
You can succeed without the guilt, intimidation, and repeated failure associated with such strategies as "getting motivated," New Year's Resolutions, or even "just doing it." In fact, you need to stop using those strategies if they aren't giving you great results. They don't work because they all require you to fight against your subconscious brain (a fight not easily won). It's only when you start playing by your brain's rules and taking your human limitations seriously--as mini habits show you how to do--that you can achieve lasting change.
What's A Mini Habit?
A mini habit is a very small positive behavior that you force yourself to do every day; its "too small to fail" nature makes it weightless, deceptively powerful, and a superior habit-building strategy. You will have no choice but to believe in yourself when you're always moving forward. The barrier to the first step is so low that even depressed or "stuck" people can find early success and begin to reverse their lives right away. And if you think one push-up a day is too small to matter, I've got one heck of a story for you!
Aim For The First Step
They say when you aim for the moon, you'll land among the stars. Well, that doesn't make sense, as the moon is closer than the stars. I digress. The message is that you should aim very high and even if you fall short, you'll still get somewhere. I've found the opposite to be true in regards to productivity and healthy behaviors. When you aim for the moon, you'll won't shoot because it's too far away. But when you aim for the step in front of you, you might just keep going and reach the moon.
I've used the Mini Habits strategy to get into the best shape of my life, read 10x more books, and write 4x as many words. It started from requiring one push-up from myself every day. How ridiculous is that? Not so ridiculous when you consider the science of the brain, habits, and willpower. The Mini Habits system works because it's how our brains are designed to change.
I relished the opportunity to share this life-changing strategy with the world. I loved writing Mini Habits. You'll see my passion in the content as well as the overall quality and presentation of the book.
Note: This book isn't for eliminating bad habits (though some principles could be useful for breaking habits). Mini Habits is a strategy to create permanent healthy habits. Some categories include: exercise, writing, reading, thinking positively, meditating, drinking water, eating healthy foods, etc.
Book sample note: The "look inside" Amazon preview lacks the cleanly spaced formatting of the actual Mini Habits book.
Stephen Guise founded the award-winning* Deep Existence blog in 2011. He has been writing about and researching personal growth strategies since 2004. Stephen's articles have been featured on some of the world's most popular websites, including: Lifehacker, Mind Body Green, Problogger, Tiny Buddha, Dumb Little Man, and Pick The Brain, among others.
Fueled by his passion for personal growth and a penchant for in-depth research and analysis, Guise has developed an array of unconventional, result-driven ideas. In particular, his ideas of extreme willpower conservation, non-motivation-based action plans, multiple-cue habit formation, success-cycling, and "stupid small" steps form the unique foundation of his first-published--and second overall--book, "Mini Habits."
*Deep Existence was voted the #1 personal development blog of 2012 by White Dove Books readers and staff over 22 other nominees.
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我是在一個對我來說非常低榖的時期接觸到這本書的,當時感覺自己對生活失去瞭掌控感,任何想開始的事情都像背著一塊沉重的石頭,寸步難行。坦白說,我對市麵上所有聲稱能“徹底改變你人生”的書都抱持著一種懷疑態度,但這本書的視角非常獨特,它不賣“勵誌雞湯”,而是深入探討瞭“行動的啓動機製”。作者的筆觸非常細膩,他沒有忽略建立新習慣過程中必然會遇到的阻力——那些讓你想放棄的瞬間、那些外界的乾擾、以及最重要的,你內心深處的自我懷疑。他提供瞭一套近乎軍事化、但又充滿人情味的對抗策略。尤其讓我印象深刻的是關於“執行意圖”和“習慣堆疊”的論述,他把這兩個概念解釋得清晰透徹,並且提供瞭大量模闆化的指導,讓你能立刻上手實踐。這本書的價值不在於給你一個模糊的方嚮,而在於給你瞭一把精確的刻刀,讓你能把“我想做某事”這個模糊的願望,雕刻成“在哪個時間點,於何處,進行一個微小動作”的清晰指令。讀完閤上書本時,我並沒有感受到那種看完史詩巨著後的疲憊,反而有一種豁然開朗的輕鬆感,仿佛終於找到瞭那個可以讓我重新邁齣第一步的支點。
评分這本書的結構設計堪稱一絕,它不是那種一氣嗬成的綫性敘事,而是更像一本工具手冊,每一章節都圍繞著習慣建立的某個關鍵環節進行深入剖析。我特彆欣賞作者在論述“一緻性”而非“強度”時所用的類比,他用瞭一個非常形象的比喻,將微習慣比作“復利效應的最小單位”,強調瞭即使是微小的、每天堅持的行動,其長期纍積起來的能量是驚人的,這徹底顛覆瞭我過去那種“不做到位就不算數”的僵化思維。內容中對“惰性”和“拖延癥”的解構也十分到位,作者將拖延視為一種對當前任務的厭惡反應,而不是道德上的缺陷,這極大地減輕瞭讀者的心理負擔。通過這種非批判性的視角,讀者更容易接受並應用書中提齣的方法。此外,書中對於如何設計你的“微習慣環境”的建議也極其具體和可行,比如如何清理乾擾源、如何設置觸發器等,這些細節的處理,顯示齣作者不僅停留在理論層麵,更是將實踐的難度降到瞭最低,確保即便是最沒有意誌力的人也能從中獲益。
评分我嘗試過市麵上大多數關於效率和習慣培養的讀物,它們大多側重於宏偉的藍圖和對“完美執行”的苛求,往往讓初學者望而卻步,最終不瞭瞭之。而這本書則完全是反其道而行之,它更像是一個經驗豐富的教練,知道如何讓你在不感覺自己像在“努力”的情況下,不知不覺地完成瞭既定的目標。這本書的語言風格異常的平實和真誠,沒有任何浮誇的辭藻,讀起來就像是聽一個真正經曆過掙紮並成功走齣睏境的朋友分享經驗。其中有一部分內容是關於如何處理“習慣中斷”的,這一點我深以為然。很多書在你中斷後隻會讓你感到內疚,但這本書卻非常科學地教導你如何“快速恢復”,而不是苛責自己。它將失敗定義為“一次性的失誤”,而不是“永久性的挫摺”,這種心態上的微調,對於長期堅持來說至關重要。總而言之,它提供的是一種可持續的、低壓力的行為改變框架,而非一時的興奮劑,這纔是它最寶貴的地方。
评分這本書最成功的地方,在於它成功地將一個看似復雜的心理學課題,轉化成瞭一套人人都能掌握的日常操作流程。我感受最深的是,它教會瞭我如何重新定義“成功”。在過去,如果我設定瞭每天閱讀一小時的目標,即使隻讀瞭五十分鍾,我也會覺得自己失敗瞭,並因此感到沮喪,可能第二天乾脆就不讀瞭。但讀完此書後,我開始慶祝那“一個俯臥撐”或“一句話的寫作”,這種對最小進步的肯定,帶來的心理激勵是巨大的。作者的行文邏輯非常清晰,每一步的推導都有堅實的心理學依據支撐,但又避免瞭使用晦澀的專業術語,使得這本書既有深度,又不失可讀性。它沒有試圖將你塑造成一個不知疲倦的工作機器,而是鼓勵你在保持生活質量和心理健康的前提下,進行緩慢而堅定的積纍。對於那些被宏偉目標壓得喘不過氣,卻渴望看到實際微小改變的人來說,這本書無疑是一劑良方,它真正做到瞭“小步快跑,持續迭代”的精髓。
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评分整本書就一個理論,設定一個很小很小的聽起來感覺到很愚蠢的目標,每天輕鬆完成,把它養齣每天必做的習慣,心情好狀態好的時候可以多做點,自己會感覺到成就感滿滿,狀態不好完成基本目標就可以,這樣也不會因為目標太大完成不瞭而有內疚感。打三星是因為作者太囉嗦瞭哈哈哈
评分no step is too small.
评分Willpower is more reliable than motivation because willpower can be strengthened while motivation diminishes over time. Mini habit's routine is easy to build since it consumes less willpower so that it's almost impossible to fail. Mini habit is a good way to create new habits after which one can replace the routine with one tougher.
评分too small to fail. 作者很有耐心的樣子
评分整本書就一個理論,設定一個很小很小的聽起來感覺到很愚蠢的目標,每天輕鬆完成,把它養齣每天必做的習慣,心情好狀態好的時候可以多做點,自己會感覺到成就感滿滿,狀態不好完成基本目標就可以,這樣也不會因為目標太大完成不瞭而有內疚感。打三星是因為作者太囉嗦瞭哈哈哈
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