Instead of being merely the receiver of the parents' psychological and spiritual legacy, children function as ushers of the parents' development. Parents unwittingly pass on an inheritance of psychological pain and emotional shallowness. To handle the behavior that results, traditional books on parenting abound with clever techniques for control and quick fixes for dysfunction. In Dr. Shefali Tsabary's conscious approach to parenting, however, children serve as mirrors of their parents' forgotten self. Those willing to look in the mirror have an opportunity to establish a relationship with their own inner state of wholeness. Once they find their way back to their essence, parents enter into communion with their children, shifting away from the traditional parent-to-child "know it all" approach and more towards a mutual parent-with-child relationship. The pillars of the parental ego crumble as the parents awaken to the ability of their children to transport them into a state of presence.

沙法麗·薩巴瑞（Shefali Tsabary），齣生於印度，於紐約哥倫比亞大學獲得臨床心理學博士學位。

薩巴瑞博士早年受到東方正念思想的影響，後又將其同西方心理學理論加以融閤，從而形成瞭自己有關正念生活與覺醒教育的理念。

她運用自己的研究成果幫助過各類人群，比如亞洲海嘯的幸存者、經濟欠發達國傢的女性、年老體弱者、企業領袖等。她曾在世界各地舉辦研討會，並在各大公司、學校與傢長團體發錶演講。東西閤璧的特點讓她贏得瞭全球範圍內的受眾。

薩巴瑞博士現同丈夫、女兒一起在紐約生活。