From Library Journal The author's previous blockbuster, Passages (LJ 5/15/76), introduced us all to the term "midlife crisis." In this sequel, Sheehy takes us beyond the midlife crisis to examine later life stages, with a short update on young adulthood in the 1990s. In a few ways, this is a better book than its predecessor. Sheehy pays closer attention to the influence of history on the life course of individuals. She also addresses the main criticism that social scientists have made of her work?that large-scale studies have shown no evidence that most people go through the life stages that she describes?by explaining that people should go through these "passages" and that everyone who doesn't is "walking dead." These improvements aside, her prose still sounds like that of a second-rate astrologer, her advice is often contradictory, and her adulation of famous personalities verges on embarrassing. Nevertheless, this is a "critic-proof" book?if you haven't already done so, order multiple copies to satisfy reader demand.-?Mary Ann Hughes, Neill P.L., Pullman, Wash.Copyright 1995 Reed Business Information, Inc. From Booklist Sheehy's Passages (1976), in which she counseled thirtysomethings about the onset of midlife, went straight to the top of most best-seller lists, and her last book, The Silent Passage (1992), in which she schlepped women through menopause, did almost as well, despite the fact that females had been navigating the change of life for a millennium or so without Sheehy's help. Rapidly running out of passages, Sheehy now takes the obvious next step: edging her loyal readers, now entrenched in midlife, to the precipice and helping them face their mortality. Arguing that middle life is the "most unrevealed portion of adult life" (not once the Boomers dig in), Sheehy is here to tell you that the years from 45 to 65 are "not the stagnant, depressing downward slide we have always assumed they would be." Although she intends this book to be a "gift" to her anxious readers, it mostly fails. Before hearing about middle age's upside, we must wend our way through seemingly endless pages about women losing their spouses, men losing their jobs (to say nothing of their hair), and both men and women contracting enough diseases to make even the hardiest souls hurry in for a checkup. There is some good news. Women who make it to 65 can expect to live to 85, and if they've survived divorce or widowhood in midlife, they come to enjoy their own independence. Still, the overriding sense of this book, whether Sheehy admits it or not, is that everybody gets hit, everybody gets hurt. You don't need passage counseling to know that, and if you don't have the inner strength to endure, you might not even get to enjoy those upbeat nuggets Sheehy has gleaned from her surveys. Expect the usual demand; for whatever reason, this passage gambit sells Ilene Cooper See all Editorial Reviews
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坦白说,这本书的阅读体验是极具挑战性的,它拒绝平庸的答案。我花了比预期更长的时间来消化其中的某些章节,不是因为文字晦涩,而是因为作者提出的观点需要你付出真正的思考努力。它要求读者放下既有的认知框架,去接受生命中那些不完美、不连贯的部分才是构成“真实”的本质。我感觉作者在不断地敲打着我们对于“线性进步”的执念,提醒我们,真正的成长往往是螺旋上升,充满了回溯和岔路。书中对于“记忆的不可靠性”和“身份的流动性”的探讨,尤其让我印象深刻。这不仅仅是哲学思辨,而是直接触及到我们如何构建自我叙事的层面。读完之后,我发现自己看待过去的方式变了,不再是简单地将事件串联起来,而是开始关注那些被遗忘的细节和被情感滤镜美化或扭曲的部分。这本书就像一把精密的解剖刀,剖开了我们对“一致性”的渴望,展现了生命真正的面貌:一个由无数个碎片组成的、不断自我编辑的文本。这种深刻的洞察力,使得它远远超越了一般的自我提升类书籍的范畴。
评分这本书的文字有一种独特的韵律感,像极了某种深秋的爵士乐,缓慢、沉静,却又暗流涌动着复杂的情绪。我特别欣赏作者对于“过程”的颂扬,而不是仅仅关注那些最终的成就或里程碑。它细腻地描绘了那些在“等待期”中发生的心理变化,那些在努力和收获之间的真空地带,往往才是塑造我们品格的关键时期。我感觉作者对人类的脆弱性和坚韧性有着非同寻常的理解力。比如,书中对“失落感”的描述,不是那种戏剧性的哀伤,而是一种渗透在日常生活中的、轻微的、持续的“不在场感”,这种描摹的精准度让人既心痛又感到被理解。它没有提供廉价的希望,而是提供了一种更高级的安慰:接受生命本身就是一场永不停止的探索,接受迷失本身也是方向的一部分。这种基调的把握非常成熟,使得全书充满了厚重的历史感,仿佛作者已经走过了所有的弯路,现在以一种慈悲的视角,向后来者指明方向,但又让你自己去探索路径。
评分这本书绝对是近年来我读过的最引人深思的作品之一。作者以一种近乎诗意的笔触,引导我们审视生命中那些看似微不足道却又至关重要的转折点。它并非提供一套僵硬的“成功学”公式,而是更像一位老友,陪着你坐在炉火旁,慢慢梳理过往的每一个选择和随之而来的涟漪。我尤其欣赏作者对于“时间感”的微妙处理,那种感觉就像是你在凝视一张被岁月精心绘制的地图,每一个路径的选择都清晰可见,但你又清楚地知道,地图上的标记只是对真实旅程的简化。书中的叙事结构非常流畅,没有突兀的跳跃,仿佛一步步牵引着你深入内心的迷宫,直到你找到那个关于“我是谁”的清晰坐标。那种体验是极其私密的,让你不禁停下手中的一切,认真回想自己是如何走到今天的这个位置的。它迫使你去质疑那些你习以为常的假设,那些你从未深究过的“为什么”。阅读过程是一种持续的自我对话,每一次翻页都伴随着一次内在的重塑。这本书带来的不是即时的慰藉,而是更深层次的觉醒,一种对生命复杂性的敬畏。
评分这本书的语言风格可以说是冷峻而富有穿透力的,它摒弃了所有华而不实的修饰,直击核心。作者对于“适应性”和“僵化”之间的微妙界限的探讨,对我触动极大。我们总以为自己正在适应环境,但这本书提醒我们,有时候所谓的“适应”只是我们放弃了探索新可能性的借口,是一种习惯性的自我设限。我喜欢书中那种对“未完成性”的拥抱,它不将任何人生阶段视为终点,而是看作一个不断开放的邀请。这使得阅读体验充满了活力,因为它暗示着,无论你现在处于哪个年龄段,你的故事都远未结束,重写和重新定义永远是选项。它不是一本教你如何“完成”自己生命的指南,而是一本关于如何“开始”下一段旅程的地图集。它鼓励了一种持续的自我解构和再构建,这对于任何处于人生转型期的人来说,都是一剂强效的清醒剂。读完之后,世界似乎没有变得更简单,反而变得更真实、更值得去探索了。
评分这本书的结构设计非常巧妙,它不是一个平面图,而是一个多维度的立体空间。作者在不同的时间维度之间穿梭自如,将看似不相干的个人经历与宏大的历史背景并置,创造出一种强烈的共鸣感。我发现自己经常会暂停阅读,走到窗边,看着外面匆忙的人群,思考他们每个人生命轨迹的深度和广度。它成功地打破了“个体”与“集体”之间的壁垒,让我们意识到,我们的每一次“选择”都不是孤立发生的,而是嵌入在一个巨大的时间网络之中。书中对于“延迟满足”和“短期诱惑”的对比分析尤其锐利,它揭示了我们在面对瞬间的快感时,如何悄无声息地出卖了未来的自己。这种对当下行为背后深层动机的挖掘,非常具有批判性。阅读它需要一种投入,一种愿意将自己的经验与作者的洞察进行碰撞的意愿。如果只是走马观花地浏览,很容易错过那些真正能改变你视角的细微差别。
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