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From Publishers Weekly The famous clothing designer recounts with tremendous candor her difficult and transformative acceptance of her daughter's lifetime of learning difficulties. At 35， newly married， pregnant and offered the chance to start her own knitwear label， Buchman was a hard-driven， perfectionist New Yorker determined to "have it all." But Charlotte， her first born， soon exhibited slow growth in movement and language， and at age four underwent a battery of tests that revealed she suffered from dyslexia， attention deficit disorder and a host of other developmental difficulties. Buchman and her husband were faced with coming to terms with having a "disabled child"—requiring not only special schools and a herculean patience but the courage to overcome the shame and guilt associated with acknowledging publicly that their life wasn't perfect. Moreover， Buchman recognized she tended to favor her needier child over her second "normal" child， although the siblings eventually excelled in areas that didn't compete with each other. With therapy and specialists to prepare her for the larger world， Charlotte， now in college， is well on her way to a productive life. Buchman's forthright memoir (and list of resources) will go far in lightening the pall surrounding children with special needs. (Mar.) Copyright © Reed Business Information， a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition. From Booklist Fashion designer Buchman， in the midst of a career of accomplishments， knew nothing about learning disabilities when her toddler was diagnosed with neurological， spatial， and motor-skill problems. As Charlotte grew older， she manifested dyslexia， had trouble counting and telling stories， and moved awkwardly. Buchman， used to overcoming obstacles， wondered how she was going to "fix" this. She recounts the process of learning about--and accepting--Charlotte's disabilities and finding schools that would help her learn to be a functioning adult; she now attends college. In this intense memoir， Buchman details her journey to find the means to help her daughter learn， a journey that became one of self-discovery as well. Families facing similar issues will appreciate this heartfelt and inspiring book. Vanessa BushCopyright © American Library Association. All rights reserved --This text refers to the Hardcover edition. See all Editorial Reviews
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这本书真正打动我的是它对于“选择”和“代价”这两个母题的探讨。它没有提供简单的对错标准，而是将人物置于一个充满道德灰色地带的环境中，让他们做出艰难的抉择。每一次的妥协或坚持，都带来了一系列连锁反应，这些后果有时是立竿见影的，更多的是在漫长岁月中逐渐显现的。作者毫不留情地揭示了生活中的“蝴蝶效应”，即便是最小的善意或疏忽，都可能改变人生的轨迹。读完后，我常常会停下来反思，如果是我，我会如何做？这种迫使读者进行自我审视的阅读体验，是优秀作品的标志之一。它不仅仅是讲述一个故事，更像是一次深刻的集体心理实验，探讨了人性的复杂和在特定社会环境下，个体能够拥有的自由空间到底有多大。
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