Do your relationships tend to follow the same destructive pattern? Have you always enjoyed being the center of attention? Do you feel trapped by your family’s expectations of you? Do you find yourself sounding more and more like your mother? Or your father?

In this groundbreaking contribution to the "nature vs. nurture" debate, clinical psychologist Oliver James shows that it is primarily our first six years of upbringing that determines our behavior as adults. Nurture, in effect, shapes our very nature. In an entertaining and informative combination of science and popular culture, James presents the latest research and revealing case studies of, among others, George W. Bush, Mia Farrow, Michael Jackson, and Prince Charles to prove his point. Along the way he provides provocative questions and examples to help you better understand the impact of your childhood past and make changes to improve your future. A bestseller and recipient of significant attention in the U.K., They F*** You Up is a bold and provocative book which will cause you to seriously ponder who you are and how you became that way.