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This is the groundbreaking examination of the psychology of homosexuality and why it leads to shame over one's identity, and how to overcome it - now expanded and fully updated. Today's gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, "Are we really better off?" Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs' own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, "The Velvet Rage" passionately describes the stages of a gay man's journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behaviour. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural and political changes, "The Velvet Rage" is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.
Alan Downs, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice located in Beverly Hills, California. He is the author of seven previous books and continues to write and hold workshops across the United States. He is actively involved in dialectical behavior therapy and is a member of the Beverly Hills DBT Team. Dr. Downs is the former CEO of Michael's House Treatment Center where he currently holds weekend workshops for families of those struggling with addictions. His current book, THE VELVET RAGE, has been acclaimed as "groundbreaking" for the gay male community. Dr. Downs has been a guest on many media programs including, THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW, TODAY SHOW, and NPR's MORNING EDITION.
每个gay都应该读一读。在直人的世界中怀揣着秘密成长给每个gay带来的影响是深远的,我们要花比常人更多的时间和精力去抹去那些印在人格深处的耻辱感,在追求光鲜完美的表象之下是一个个没有长大的peter pan。这本书不仅指明了成为一个“authentic”的自己需要经历的阶段,更难得的是提供了可以实践的生活技巧。不愧是同志文化中里程碑式的一本经典了。
评分14章给出的list很有趣。作者以3 stages of gay men的发展历程叙述;看完后觉得我们并不需要用哪个stage去归类自己,而是意识到我们时刻都在不同的stage之间游走,更要保持警醒。愿每个人都能获得authenticity
评分每个gay都应该读一读。在直人的世界中怀揣着秘密成长给每个gay带来的影响是深远的,我们要花比常人更多的时间和精力去抹去那些印在人格深处的耻辱感,在追求光鲜完美的表象之下是一个个没有长大的peter pan。这本书不仅指明了成为一个“authentic”的自己需要经历的阶段,更难得的是提供了可以实践的生活技巧。不愧是同志文化中里程碑式的一本经典了。
评分作者那套shame和validation的理论其实不止是gay men,适用于所有人。身边就有活生生的例子,做的一切都是要得到validation,不是因为自己喜欢,而是无意义的作秀,得不到validation就气急败坏;因为shame而一定要在别的方面得到补偿;敏感自卑,一点小事就觉得别人侮辱自己。 反思自己有时候也会把个人全部的价值建筑在别人的validation上
评分14章给出的list很有趣。作者以3 stages of gay men的发展历程叙述;看完后觉得我们并不需要用哪个stage去归类自己,而是意识到我们时刻都在不同的stage之间游走,更要保持警醒。愿每个人都能获得authenticity
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The Velvet Rage pdf epub mobi txt 电子书 下载 2024